Mixed Messages with goal setting
I’m sick of these mixed messages. I’m only human. I can’t read your mind. Unknown Quote.
What on earth is a Mixed Message?
You know how people say “I want to be/do/have ‘that'”, and then you see them doing things that are absolutely contrary to “that” outcome?
What do you think it would be like as a neuron in their mind?
Torn in totally different directions, the subconscious mind tries to do what the person wants but with diametrically opposed instructions, only chaos and frustration can result!
Are we all guilty of sending Mixed Messages?
At times, for sure. There have been times when my mind has been made up to pursue a certain direction, a goal, a challenge, and I found myself doing things totally differently, and things that would certainly prevent me achieving the goal I just set! Why is this?
We run programs in our minds. We are preprogrammed to a degree, just like that laptop you bought. It was either a Mac or Windows operational platform. It has to operate on one of those platforms, because that’s all there is. A Mac cannot decide to run Microsoft Windows, it would need massive programming changes to be made for that to happen, and all you’d have left is the case, if it would fit!
Severely conflicted messages in action!
Courtesy of grapevine.is
The same with us. We can think and process new ideas but sometimes, the old ideas are the program that is actually driving us around in daily life. To change the outcomes, we need to change the program. Sometimes we set goals that are opposed and cancel each other out! This so often happens with relationship goals and is a constant challenge for families. Competition for time especially is a huge factor for consideration – there are only 24 hours in a day and sometimes the goals we set demand more than 24 hours to achieve them – and someone misses out!
The mixed messages run both ways, internally and externally. To the outside world, they might see a flashy, even flamboyant figure, driving a sports car, the total appearance of success, but his creditors might tell you differently. What he says might be different to what he does.
Internally, he might be saying to himself “OK, success this time, one more deal and we are sorted out again!” But then he picks up the phone, or gets on the computer and wastes the afternoon and suddenly, the opportunity for that deal has passed.
Chaos and confusion. Sending mixed messages everywhere. It happens in relationships, in business, in families and everywhere else we are working. The trouble with it is that while ever we send mixed messages to ourselves and the rest of the world, we are paddling upstream in a strong current, as far as success goes, with achieving our goals!
Just imagine twenty people in your team and your bus is bogged in the sand. You tell ten people to push on the front, and ten to push on the back of the bus. Their efforts cancel each other out. Lots of effort and energy expended, but no progress. The bus is still bogged. Mixed messages in where the effort needs to go.
Bogged Bus, not going anywhere fast!
Courtesy of www.camping.de
If you tell 5 of those people in front of the bus to come to the back, you now have 15 pushing the bus forward, and only 5 trying to push it back. The bus may move but there’s a lot of swearing and frustration between the two groups.
So the last 5 in front of the bus come to the back of the bus and start pushing, and you now have all twenty people pushing in the same direction! Viola! Success, the bus is quickly out of the bog, and you are powering along the road again in no time at all.
This is what is going on inside our minds when we send mixed messages – until they are congruent with our intended direction, we get frustration and angst and not a lot of progress!
What to do about Mixed Messages.
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- creates awareness of your goalsetting plans, issues and other limitations
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- eliminates limiting fears, phobias and beliefs
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Til next time, fair winds and full sails,
Ray Jamieson
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